I met career coach, Joyce Kaplan, as part of my volunteer work with the Canadian Tamil Alumni Association. We met up on Friday, as I had contacted her about running a workshop with CTAA. To be honest, I had never really felt the need to see an individual career coach. I attend any and all Professional Development sessions that I can get my hands on but I did not think I needed individual coaching. That's what friends are for!
With Joyce, however, I understood, that there is more to the relationship. Friends and family can tell you over and over that you are amazing and should pursue your dreams. They can be your cheering section and your sounding board (and the first people I talked to about this was them) but they are limited by one thing - THEY KNOW YOU!
In knowing you and your life, they don't always need to ask you the questions that force you to think and question you actions. One - because it is a 'normal' for you and they know that or two - they are aware of the patterns of influence(s) in your life and understand why you are the way you are. She didn't know me and in seeking to know me, was able to ask me a simple question -
"If you weren't waiting for validation from your father, where would you get it from?" and assigned me a 20 minute writing homework on it (still to be done). So I have spent the weekend thinking.
I would get some of that validation from the fulfillment of my commitment and I feel that I am behind in that, so I am starting simply again with a very basic one... This blog.
I had made a commitment to working on this blog and I have let that go. Thus, I am going to re-assert that commitment and not fear putting all of me out there. Thus, I am going to set up some easy parameters to make sure I do not get overwhelmed and am able to talk about the millions of thoughts that randomly float in my head. So I will make it my action to write a blog entry at least twice a week - Monday's and Thursday's.